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Post by crimsulent on May 26, 2010 13:24:30 GMT -5
wow, it sounds like you're having a truly wonderful visit, Connie sorry to hear the mtg w Sue didn't get to happen! i've been wondering where she was too! every time i go to DL i never time it right on any line. i ALWAYS have to wait 45 min + it boggles my mind that you could knock off 20 rides in 12 hours. that's INCREDIBLE! well done!!!!! it also boggles my mind that DL lets patrons leave with $$$ in their pockets. that's crazy! practically EVERYONE has a last minute souvenir they need to pick up, or a bottled water or something. i think the shops should be open 'til at least 10:30
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Post by Organized Chaos on Jul 7, 2010 15:58:40 GMT -5
I didn't feel like starting a new topic to ask this, so I'll bring this one back up since it sort of applies. I'm asking here just to get some honest opinions from neutral parties. Ultimately the decision is mine, but I'd like to know if I'm crazy or not. LOL
As I said above, my ex-g/f is taking our son to Disney World, which is actually in about 2 weeks. For years now, the ONE vacation I talked about taking my son on most was to the ocean. I can't say that I'm a big fan of the ocean or the beach, but I can remember my first time there and looking out on that endless expanse of water was truly amazing. And it wasn't like I was 9 like my son is now...I was 16. So for years I've said as soon as we could afford to, I wanted to take him while he was still young enough to think it's the most amazing thing he'd ever laid eyes on.
This was MY goal, my dream to share with him. But ever since she ended our relationship & told me they were going to FL, I realized my dream of taking him and seeing his face when he saw the ocean for the first time was crushed.
Here's what I'm considering...I want to drive down there when they go and be there when he goes to the beach for the first time. This has NOTHING to do with butting in on her & her family or interfering in their time together. I don't even have to see them. I just want this ONE thing that I've wanted for so long. Me & her are still civil to one another and are trying to be friends through all of this. If she wanted to be there too, I have no problem with that.
I would simply show up, spend the day with him on the beach, then leave. I'd be happy with that. I don't care about Disney. I want the ocean experience with him because it was my wish and I hate that she stole it from me.
I know it's not the most sane thing to do...drive to FL, spend a couple hundred dollars in gas just to spend 1 day. I have to ask my family if they can loan me gas money and a friend of mine said he'd even go with me to help me drive. But that one day with my son on the beach would make it worth it.
Am I insane? I'm not trying to be some kind of stalker, it has nothing to do with my ex or her family. It's about this one experience shared with my son that I'll never be able to get back if I'm not there for his first time.
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Post by Connie on Jul 7, 2010 16:39:41 GMT -5
Insane for wanting to see a dream come true for you and your child? Not at all.
As long as the ex is okay with it, I see it as a great opportunity to show your son that even though you aren't all living under the same roof, you both still want to share these moments with him.
What a great dad you are!
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Post by weebitty on Jul 7, 2010 16:59:57 GMT -5
yes I agree with connie you are trying to be a great Dad still and show him you still want special times with him there is absolutely nothing wrong with that I wish more Dads would do that when a relationship breaks up. Or the Dad leaves before a child is born because they don't care. Why punish a child because the grown ups can't get along?? You go for it and enjoy it. IMHO.
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Post by linda52 on Jul 7, 2010 20:06:42 GMT -5
I agree with Connie and weebitty, I think you should do it. I think it's beautiful that you want to do this and, I think it will make your son feel very special and loved that you would drive down there to share this with him!
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Post by Organized Chaos on Jul 7, 2010 22:11:37 GMT -5
Thank you Connie, weebitty & linda. That makes me feel so much better. I guess I'm not crazy, I just didn't want to come off as a stalker.
I ran it by my mom yesterday and as I suspected, she kinda flipped out. LOL I said dang mom, I'm 34 yrs old and I used to drive back & forth from the east coast & home all the time when I was in the service. But I guess that's a mother for you.
I don't know how my ex will take it. I'm sure her & her family will have a good laugh. But if she says she won't let me be with him if I do go down there, I'll tell her we'll run it by our boy and see how he feels. And if he loves the idea (which I'm sure he would) I'd ask her why she would deny him that time with me.
It's something I'm still thinking over. Have to come up with the money first & foremost.
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Post by Connie on Jul 9, 2010 13:34:26 GMT -5
I hope you get to go and I really hope your ex won't flip out. It's not like your taking him away from her for the day.. you just want to be there to enjoy the moment..
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Post by havingfunnow on Jul 9, 2010 14:48:26 GMT -5
But an important thing to remember! We didn't say you weren't crazy - just that it was not an insane thing to do Being crazy is fun sometimes!
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Post by Organized Chaos on Jul 9, 2010 14:55:41 GMT -5
I appreciate everyone's support. It doesn't look like I'll be going because I can't bring myself to ask my family to loan me gas money. Asking for help like that isn't something I'm used to...I guess it's a pride thing. That and I'm afraid they'll think I'm nuts.
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Post by Connie on Jul 9, 2010 16:46:25 GMT -5
Aww I wish I would win the lottery.. I would GIVE you the money to get there and have fun..
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Post by silvermountain on Jul 23, 2010 13:44:07 GMT -5
Yay I found the board again! For awhile I couldn't find it nor remember what the name was called, I searched all over google with different names but never found it, but thanks to the email about the new site I found it once again And its bookmarked so I can't lose it lol anyway... sorry for rambling and onto the topic, I'm jealous! I want to go to Disneyland! I've been to Disney World many times, actually I'm going in less than a month, well leaving we drive down and we're leaving on the 19th it takes about 2 days since we stop half way, then go to Daytona for a day or so and our first Disney day is the 23rd, we're staying Monday to Monday. So what is Disneyland like? I want to go to every Disney park some day. Cali, Paris, Hong Kong, Tokyo, the cruise lines too.
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Post by Connie on Jul 26, 2010 12:58:19 GMT -5
Im glad you found us again! You have almost found us again anyway.. Sorry for the trouble but we have moved to itsfreefun.com Head on over and take a look!
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